Of late this is all i have been thinking about...Being a lesbian contrary to what people think is so bloody complicated.When you want a baby there are so many things to worry about namely,how to get pregnant?this issue is the worst because trust me,anyone who hears your pregnant begins with the same question,how did you get pregnant?Lets establish that artificial insemination is not exactly a cheap option so parting your legs for considering how fast you can get him there,an estimated 15mins tops shouldn't be a problem if you really want a baby.Then ofcourse comes problem number 2,everyone wants to know who the baby daddy is,in my case,he doesnt exist and if you insist i will tell you the holy spirit sired this child.Reality of the matter being that this baby is solely mine.If i lose it nobody else will relate to how i feel.Plus,considering i went in search of a child,what would a man add to my life except complications?Can you imagine a situation where the supposed baby daddy is in the picture now life gets complicated because trust me,men i know would not let me raise that child with another woman.so why would i tell the man i want to get pregnant?and when he does find out i am,what gives him the authority to declare that its his?what guarantee does he have that he was the only man i lay with during that time?
Then comes issue number 3,the age old question,how does your girlfriend feel about it?hers is what i think,if we have been dating for less than 3 months,for all i care she can throw a fit and leave and i wouldnt even blink or think twice.If we have been together for 6 months i can understand your concern but its either you are in or out.I dont expect you to help me raise it but i expect you to respect my choice to keep it.If we have been together for something close to a year,i totally want to sit and talk to you about it before but if u think i shouldnt,am sorry,but this is entirely my choice again,its either you are in or out.Then we have the relationships we deem marriages and to be honest these are the most complicated.When one of you want a child and the other doesnt,it becomes a tug of war.In that instant,i think i would do what i deem best.Its a matter of what is more important to you and where you see yourself and your relationship in another 5 years and where you are now.Then now we have me.I am special.am not even sure what to call myself.my situation is complicate as is so i made a choice to have a baby and steer clear of women till this baby comes.If a woman comes after and is okay with it well and good.if not then i suggest they pass on.So i hope this answers everyone that has been questioning me...
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